So often we start our days rushing to get ready, complete tasks, rush to work or through errands, etc., and rarely do we stop to note that our real inspirations to do any of those things is to arrive at our own feelings of well-being.
We should want well-being, not only for ourselves, but for others too. If we get too caught up in our business, or sense that dreaded feeling that we’ve begun falling behind, we often start becoming much more self-determined, and can begin to see others as an obstacle to that sense of well-being.
For example, we yell or honk at other drivers; overlook important details in our rushed lives; and fail to see that others, no different then us, are doing their best. Some may have had a better chance or less of a chance; yet it’s our basic sense of well-being that wants us to do our best so that we remain in this sense of well-being. My invitation to the reader is to seek a sense of well-being for others also.
This can be a kind action, a kind word, ignoring something that would normally invoke a less desirable emotion in us, even starting our day earlier so we are a calmer presence for others only now recognizing how rushed or seemingly complex life has become. It’s a basic human trait to have empathy, and with that empathy, we can simply recognize that others too are doing their best. When we acknowledge this, and start wanting for their well-being as well as our own, we’ve actually leveled up a bit in life to our basic emotional intelligence. It is this emotional intelligence that reminds us that we live individually, though interconnected to a life and people beyond us.
This was true as infants, and while we grow, our independence grows. However, so too grows our own motivations, and if we do not reconnect these emotions to something which is good for others as well as ourselves, we begin to isolate ourselves from anyone’s needs other then our own. Only by recognizing that we seek well-being, and as a natural course of living, that others seek this too can we lower barriers to the well-being and emotional intelligence, even happiness, we and others seek. We can make it our task to be of assistance and not an obstacle to others’ well-being, just as we seek to alleviate and overcome our the obstacles for our well-being in our own lives.
In other words, you can be a wall, bearing the load alone, and potentially, lose our own chances on a daily basis for happiness and well-being, or we can be like a door or opening, that serves its purpose, yet can be open as well as remain closed.
We open to our own needs for well-being, and keep in mind our desire for the well-being of others; that is when we are like an open door. When we do need time to restore and nurture our own lives, it is then that we can close the door, ever so gently, and allow our own emotional intelligence to once again have the prominence that we once overlooked for ourselves and others, mainly due to our own self interests which start to take away from our well-being rather then add to it.
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